How I Got Through a Dark Night of the Soul

Updated: Nov 13, 2019


Are you going through a dark night of the soul? Wondering when you are going to catch a break? When you focus on when and how the chaos is going to end, your feelings resonate energetic vibrations of anger, resentment and anxiety. Manifesting a breakthrough can slow down because your energy starts to operate in a lower vibrational frequency.


Before going into how to better manage your frequency during a dark night of the soul, let’s make sure we are on the same page. What exactly is a dark night of the soul?


The term is used to describe a collapse in multiple life categories. For instance, you may lose a job, end a relationship, and encounter major health issues in a very short span of time.


Such chaos can generate a deep sense of hopelessness and meaninglessness in life. Sometimes, like in my case, it generates feelings of deep sadness.


Going through a dark night of the soul feels downright awful. In fact, it’s not easy to see any silver linings in the midst of all the chaos. So there’s not need to force it.


Stop the analyzing. After some time passes, you may see why things panned out the way they did. For now, there’s no need to push yourself while in the midst of a dark night of the soul.


My dark night of the soul.


Throughout my 20's I struggled with anxiety and bouts of depression. This was in my personal and professional life.


I was always looking for Mr Right in the wrong places. And it wasn’t just romantic relationship issues, I also struggled with keeping close friends around.


I was also miserable at my 9-5 job. I worked really hard wherever I was, public sector or private sector. Got promoted and then ended up even more unhappy taking on more responsibilities doing work that I wasn’t passionate about.


There was a whole lot of crying on Friday nights just dreading going into work on Mondays.


In 2013, I hit rock bottom yet again. By then I was in my early 30's and that made it harder because I expected my 30's to be better than my 20's by far. So my expectations kind of made me feel worse about everything.


After learning all the lessons I learned in my 20's, I figured I was older and wiser and therefore there was no way I would hit rock bottom.


But I actually sank even deeper than rock bottom. It was like I fell in a black hole. I ended a long-term relationship with a guy that I was set on marrying. Long distance just didn’t work out.


And within seven months of the relationship ending, he met and married someone. So that hurt pretty bad even though I was the one who ended things.


My professional life was rough too. I was working overseas and traveling a lot. There was a lot of office politics going on. It was an environment with lots of passive aggressiveness and again the work itself didn’t resonate with me at all.


I hated going into work everyday. I would call in sick and had all types of excuses. I think at one point I said I had hives, then one time I had pink eye. I mean the list goes on.


Throughout this time, I journaled, meditated, visualized my ideal future, and look a lot of time to dig deep. I cried my eyes out throughout it all.


Most importantly, I got quiet and tapped into my intuition.


After much introspection, I recognized that my happiness, my sanity and just having that sense of peace and balance, was priceless. Slowly but surely, I got clear on what I wanted to change in my work and life.


And here’s what happened.


I walked into work one day and requested to end my contract. My managers and colleagues were so surprised because they thought I was really happy with the job. And within a few weeks, I got on a plane and left my jet setter lifestyle behind.


Halfway to Washington DC, I had a 24-hour layover in Hawaii. During this time, I saw a beautiful condo that was just listed online so I emailed my realtor and told her I wanted to see this place the day I landed, which was in 12-hours.


Then I got on the plane, landed in DC, checked into my hotel, and walked over to her office. She suggested adding a few other condos to consider since we were already in the neighborhood, but I said no. Just this one for today.


After all, I just got off the plane.


Within 20 minutes of viewing, I knew that was it. I put down the offer and closed 2 weeks later. My realtor, Lisa, said it was the fastest she’s ever sold anything.


Then the next morning, I went to the car dealership. I test drove a Prius I’ve been eyeing and within 15-minutes, I bought it. A month later, I met the love of my life through a mutual colleague.


So when it rains, it pours. But when there’s a windfall of positive results, things can fall into place just as quickly.


According to the law of attraction, we are able to attract what we want in life by holding space for that thought. By doing so, we allow the universe to deliver our goals to us.


Just as how the law of attraction operates under the premise that we can have anything we want in life, we need to hold space for that thought to allow the universe to deliver.


By holding positive energy, we attract positive results.


If you can clearly visualize your goals, dreams and desires and vibrate with the frequency of having achieved those results already, you can attract what you desire.


First, why even raise your vibes? What does that even mean? Raising your energetic vibrations to match the frequency of where you want to be helps you to be energetically aligned with your goals.


It helps you speed up your manifestation.


When it comes to raising your vibrations, sometimes we end up holding a lot of physical tension or have energetic blocks from our past experiences that can slow down our efforts.


I remember I had all types of ailments when I was at my 9-5. I had to get a crown done because I was clenching my jaw all the time. I also would wake up with a stiff neck that would last for over a week!


A lot of what we internalize on the energetic level can manifest in our physical body. But I’m living proof that it’s possible to get to the other side in one piece. By making it to the other side, you awake into a deeper sense of purpose or connection with a fulfilling life.


Often times, the result is a spiritual awakening and a feeling of “rebirth.” Out with the old, in with the new. And the wisdom that comes from such a spiritual growth spurt is priceless. After all, life is about learning lessons to develop the soul.


Before every major breakthrough, there is typically a need for a breakdown.


If you seek major life changes in various life categories, then there’s usually a need for old patterns, relationships, and so forth to clear out. Like building a bigger and sturdier house. You would need to take down the smaller house with the old foundation in order to lay down a stronger new foundation.


How does one get through the darkness when things keep collapsing right and left? Take small and consistent steps to shift out of the victim mentality.


Sure it is absolutely ok to be angry and cry. Feeling negative emotions and releasing it through tears is a part of the healing process. By allowing yourself to feel the negative emotions without self-judgement, you are paving the way to shift your vibrations.


In the healing stage, allow yourself to stay in your comfort zone. We all have our preferred morning routines and self-care practices. Do what feels good to you. Do what feeds your soul. This could be journaling, meditating, and so forth.


Continue to shift your vibrations by changing your focus from your external circumstances to your internal world. Everything you need to get through the darkness is already within you. By being internally guided, you can better manifest faster breakthroughs.


When you raise your vibrations to match the higher frequency of where you want to be in life, the law of attraction starts to kick in. Positive vibrations attract positive energy flow into your life.


Ready to raise your vibrations to attract positive energy flow?


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Feeling stuck in your career? Got stubborn money blocks? Your money chakra, aka root chakra, may be unbalanced.


The key to clear blocks getting in your way of being in the energetic flow is to align yourself to vibrate at the frequency of where you want to be in life.


By incorporating a holistic approach, you are better able to raise your vibrations to attract financial abundance.


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