How to Be Single and Happy

Updated: Jul 16, 2019



Does it seem like everyone around you is married or in a relationship? Frustrated with your single and not-so-fab life? I hear ya. I’ve been single most of my life.


Over the years of singlehood, even holidays can feel lonely even when among friends and family. I’ve wallowed in self-pity and tried everything to make the most out of singledom.


Speed dating? Check! Celebrating “Galentine’s Day” on Valentine’s Day with my gal pals? Check! But soon, those gals were no longer single. So I’ve learned to master the art of being very very single. Here’s how you too can live a single and happy lifestyle.


My short dating history...


I was 24 when I had my first boyfriend. And that relationship lasted for 3 months. I didn’t have a boyfriend again until 28. That relationship lasted a whopping 6 months...twice as long!


At 29, I had a 9-month relationship and at 31, I had a 3-year relationship. Each relationship that ended put me in some form of depression. It took months and months to get myself together. Yet, the periods of darkness got shorter each time I re-entered singlehood.


But what about taking an energetic approach?


When you are feeling lonely and disconnected week after week, how do you get out of that funk? Most times, we approach loneliness on a mental or physical level.


For instance, when feeling down, we might work on our mindset shift or going out for a jog to release the negativity.


Getting in the energetic flow...


When we are aligned, and in the energetic flow, things tend to sort itself out quicker and more times than not. During my rough patches, I was not aligned with my authentic self.


Raise your vibrations to attract high-vibe energy...


When it comes to meeting that special someone, it starts with self-love. Seeking someone who is honest? Be honest with yourself and others. Seeking a compassionate partner? Be compassionate with yourself and others.


We have to be the type of person we want to attract.


It’s not just about the love life...


Our vibe attracts our tribe. If you have those extended periods where nothing seems to be going well, it could be your intuition telling you that you are out of alignment.


It’s time to take some simple but powerful action.


Now it’s not an easy fix, but being consistent and daily practice is all it takes. Single or not, here are a few ways to be the energetic flow.


Surround yourself with high-vibe people.


This may mean having to cut ties with those who just never seem to bring out the best in you. This may also mean to hire professionals who can help you reach your fullest potential.


Invest in yourself, especially you financial literacy.


Currently, women earn less for every dollar earned by a man. Our dollars have to stretch further to achieve the same lifestyle.



We are in the workforce for a shorter period of time. Between maternity leave, part-time work, and parenting, we generally dip in and out of the workforce. Thus, we have smaller retirement savings and fewer earning years.


Yet our retirement savings need to last longer, ladies. Women tend to live longer than men.


So many women tend to spend more of their lives single.


We are marrying later in life. And be it getting divorced, being a widow, or choosing to remain single (and fab!), we should be prepared to live self-sufficiently.


Got a great career and making the big bucks? Great! Finances not in order? Not ok.


Wealth + Wellness = Wealthness


Wealth and wellness mean different things to different people. For some, wealth means financial abundance. For others, it could mean owning a lot of luxury goods.


When it comes to defining wellness, for some, it means being in good health. It could also include having meaningful relationships.


There’s no right or wrong definition.


When it comes to increasing your wealthness, it’s all about creating positive energy flow. Positive energy flow can be in the form of financial gains, health, meaningful relationships, hidden opportunities, priceless experiences, and so forth.


But increasing your wealthness doesn’t just happen overnight. It’s a lifelong practice. With small but consistent steps in raising your vibrations, various forms of wealthness can flow into your life.


Spiritual growth and building wealthness go hand-in-hand.


Working through wealth or wellness blocks is an opportunity for spiritual development which builds your human capital. When you invest in yourself spiritually, you create space to expand your wisdom.


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Manifest your goals...faster!


The more you expand, the more you have to work with and the faster you are able to manifest goals. Ultimately, the more you have to offer the world, the more wealth and wellness you are able to attract.


Remember, making mistakes are part of spiritual development. In fact, it’s not about failing. It’s more about learning from failure in order to gain clarity on the next steps to take to propel forward faster.


Enjoy activities that are in alignment with how you want to feel when you achieve your goal.


The key to manifest what you want is to be on the vibrational frequency of having already achieved it. Our emotions help to energetically speed up our manifestation. So ask yourself how you want to feel when you achieve your goal.


Continue taking small and consistent steps to raise your vibrations to align your frequency accordingly. When we raise our vibrational frequency closer in alignment with what we are trying to achieve, we are better able to attract who and what we need for our highest good.

But it doesn’t mean you have to be high-vibin’ 24/7.


Sometimes, life is just downright tough. Dark nights of the soul are no fun. But difficult challenges are a part of life. The toughest ones can be the best opportunities for growth.


It’s OK to not feel fab all day every day.


We all fall in and out of alignment throughout life. It doesn’t mean you have to go on an “Eat, Pray, Love” journey. Remember, the journey to achieving any form of wealthness is more fulfilling than having achieved it.


After all, life is about the journey, not the destination!


When we view life as an experiment, we are able to connect with our inner child. In turn, we are able to increase positive energy flow. Be willing to experiment with different activities to help you build wealthness.


Ready to manifest more wealth + wellness in life?


The key to clear blocks getting in your way of being in the energetic flow is to align yourself to vibrate at the frequency of where you want to be in life.


By incorporating a holistic approach, you are better able to raise your vibrations to attract financial abundance.


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