How to Breakup with Your Past

Updated: Nov 13, 2019


When it comes to letting go of a past hurt or regret, it can be especially tough. Sometimes crying it out, writing it out, or talking it out just doesn’t cut it. So how does a gal completely breakup with an “unforgettable” past? Let’s use my messy financial past as an example...


It took me a long long time to let go of my past money mistakes.


I definitely had my fair share of meltdowns throughout my emotional roller coaster journey to financial freedom.


Throughout my blog, I’ve mentioned one of my biggest financial regrets was giving over $30,000 to a psychic to help me “remove a curse”. In a nutshell, I was young, desperate, and going through a breakup.


But my money mistakes didn’t end just there.


There are many things I wish I did differently with my money in my 20’s and early 30’s. I made a lot of financial mistakes from not investing early enough to overspending on things I didn’t need.


Had I done things differently, I probably would have achieved financial freedom much sooner. Maybe even in my 20’s.


Yet, the journey to financial freedom made life much more meaningful. After all, life is all about the journey, not the destination right?


Financial Independence Retire Early (FIRE)


If FIRE is your goal too, then it’s time to start forgiving yourself for those cringe worthy financial mistakes. I’m living proof that financial freedom is possible at any age regardless of when are where you start from.


Once I was able to breakup with my past, I was able to adopt an abundance mindset. Then, I was able to notice my blocks when it came to manifesting wealth. Soon enough, I began to create multiple streams of income to be able to quit my 9-5.


Don’t skip the healing.


Breaking up with a negative past experience is helpful in the healing process. Thus, it does not happen overnight. Nor does it happen once. The breakup ought to be done as often as needed.


Most importantly, the breakup should be done so without self-judgement. Sometimes, negative emotions from the past surfaces from the dark so that it can see some light.


Feel it to heal it, then move on.



If something reminds you of a hurtful past, you may find yourself getting upset all over again.


Even if decades have passed, you’ve already forgiven and moved on, the negative emotions of the past can have a way of resurfacing.


But going down the rabbit hole of negative thoughts is like an emotional quicksand that can bring down your vibrations. You don’t have to pretend that what happened wasn’t bad.


Use your negative emotions to help you manifest. Yes, turn those negative vibes into positive fuel!


As Mother Theresa once said: “Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”


To start the breakup process, set the intention.


Write a short and sweet break-up letter to your past. It doesn’t even have to be a letter. In fact, make it a short and sweet text message, tweet, or post.


The objective is to set the intention to let go and move forward using that as a foundation. This helps to serve as a reminder that breaking up with the past is an ongoing lifelong process. Here’s an example:


“Dear Past,


I am a stronger and better person today because of you. Thank you. However, I’m moving on because sometimes you hold me back from spiritual development. It’s been great and I’m sure whenever we cross paths again, we can be cordial in passing.


Goodbye.”



Not so black or white.


If you are like me, things tend to be viewed as black or white, right or wrong. You may have that stubborn urge to make right all wrongs, even the ones that can never be erased. Especially, the wrongs from which you should have been protected.


At the same time, when you let go of the past, you are doing this for yourself rather than the person that has hurt you. Energetically speaking, when you forgive, you are removing energy blocks preventing you from moving forward.


Letting go forces us to face our three strongest emotional drivers: love, fear, and rage. Nothing keeps us in the past more than the energy it takes to hold on to the past hurt.


When you cling on to lost love, seethe over an annoying colleague, or want to avenge a family member, these are all natural inclinations. But to a point and for a period of time.


Instead, use those negative emotions to help you manifest breakthroughs.


So how does one get to that point of forgiveness?


Getting beyond the past requires the act of letting go. Releasing the “unforgivable” wrong means reevaluating experiences and releasing old perspectives. Discarding mistaken beliefs is often about what it takes to be happy and shifting thoughts and feelings.


Getting unstuck involves remember a hurt but reconsidering it from a different perspective. Empathy is necessary in order to move forward from it. Letting go of old attachments opens up the real possibility of a new one in your life.


Moving forward may mean re-adjusting your contribution in a relationship so that you are less giving. Maybe it’s time to set energetic boundaries with others.


All it takes is small but consistent steps towards moving forward. Start with writing a short and sweet break-up letter to your past. Ready to move even further on your journey to financial freedom?


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Clear your money chakra!


Hit a glass ceiling in your career? Got stubborn money blocks? Your money chakra, aka root chakra, may be unbalanced.


The key to clear blocks getting in your way of being in the energetic flow is to align yourself to vibrate at the frequency of where you want to be in life.


By incorporating a holistic approach, you are better able to raise your vibrations to attract financial abundance.

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